How can someone like Robin Williams be loved by so many people all around the world, and yet still decide to end his life? He had all the money, fame, and love in the world. He made a living doing what he loved, and worked with the top producers, directors, and actors in the world.
Robin also succeeded professionally in ways some of us only dream. He wanted to be on T.V., check! He wanted his own show, check! Robin wanted to be in Hollywood films, check! He wanted to win an award playing a serious role when his skill was to be funny, check! He also said that he wanted to make the whole world laugh. We know he succeeded there too.
It is common knowledge that money and fame doesn’t make you happy in itself, but Robin Williams also had millions of people loving him all around the world. We sit here scratching our heads to how this happened.
How Loving Oneself Saves People From Suicidal Thoughts
My life mission is to help people overcome feelings of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and more. Thanks to my expertise in the mental health and life coaching fields, I believe I can offer an explanation as to why I believe Robin Williams never felt completely whole and fulfilled. As a result, you’ll learn about Robin, yourself and everybody in life you would like to help end suicidal thoughts.
All of us human beings operate based on The 6 Human Needs. These are not desires, wants, or goals. These are needs that every human needs to fulfill to survive and thrive. The 6 human needs are:
1. Certainty: to feel safe and secure
2. Variety: to have change and excitement
3. Significance: to feel special and that our lives have meaning
4. Love/Connection: to feel love/connected with ourselves and with others
5. Growth: to grow and develop
6. Contribution: to pay it forward
The first four everybody meets, even if they have to lie to themselves or have split personalities. Every thought, belief, and action will meet at least one of the top four needs.
What Was Robin Missing From His Life?
Looking at the list, it looks like Robin Williams had everything. He should be able to meet his deepest need of love/connection from all the love he got from millions of people. The problem was most likely that he would not let himself truly love and connect with himself. In other words, he never truly let himself feel those feelings. He wanted to make everybody happy and laugh because only then did he think he could let himself experience at least some love/connection.
The problem with this thought pattern is that your life is only great for a certain amount of time as well as based on external factors. The emotion that’s most important to you is only felt at certain times and based on certain sometimes uncontrollable factors. That is a scary and depressing way of thinking. It is understandable why he felt that there was something missing. In fact I often see this same pattern with my clients.
We are all born loving and connecting. However there comes a time when we wanted so badly to be loved and accepted by somebody, but we believed they would never love us back. At that point people sometimes pull away and make up a belief that says “since love is not unconditional, I would rather be safe than sorry”. As a result, we go into our shells and hope that one day we can find a partner who truly loves and connects with us. The feeling that is most important to us hinges on other people. That uncertainty makes some people want to end their life like Robin did.
How To Love Oneself
The solution is to reconnect with that part of ourselves that loves without having to earn it. We can love ourselves and share love with other people. At that point we realize that love has always been inside of us. We realize that love is always a part of us. We will never fear losing it again, or feel that it depends on external factors. If our dear friend Robin knew that, he just might have been happy and fulfilled.
Take A Free Online Test To Find Out If You Have Depression
Take a depression test to find out if you feel truly depressed. Everybody feels sad, confused, stuck and helpless at different times, but if this is a common pattern, then you need counseling to overcome feelings of depression.
Do I have depression, moderate depression, severe depression, or clinical depression? In addition, is there help?
This test is similar to a depression screening done by a psychologist or psychiatrist.
For each question on the depression test, pick No or Yes. Count the number of Yes answers.
At the end you will total how many Yes you have and will be directed to effective treatment.
Depression Test Questions
I feel hopeless & helpless.
I feel sad a lot of the time.
Usually have trouble getting up in the morning.
I am confused.
I feel tired, worn out, and with little energy.
Guilty feelings follow me a lot of the time.
I am not sure if I’m truly loved or worth anything.
I feel stuck.
I’m very hard on myself, especially when I fail at something.
I have trouble focusing and concentrating.
My sleeping patterns have changed (have trouble sleeping or sleeping too much).
I have poor appetite or over-indulging in sweets.
Experience a loss of pleasure in activities I used to enjoy.
What are the Signs, Symptoms and Causes of Depression?
Depression Signs & Symptoms
The most common depression signs are low energy, feeling guilty, unmotivated, stuck, hurt, sad, and discouraged. People also experience a loss of interest, insomnia as well as irritability. They may have trouble focusing and have unexplained headaches and body pains.
Some people may even confuse feelings of depression with bipolar disorder and suicidal thoughts.
Feeling down from time to time is a normal part of life, but when you can’t seem to move past emotions such as hopelessness and despair, life becomes hard. These overwhelming feelings affect an estimated 350 million people of all ages, and makes it challenging to function and enjoy life like you once did. Just getting through the day can be overwhelming. But despite how hopeless you feel, there are solutions.
Feel free to take a free online depression test to see if you have the signs and symptoms. Questions include how you feel in the morning, if you feel unmotivated or stuck as well as your day to day mood. If you answer yes to at least five of the questions, seek help for depression.
Causes of Depression
Depression In Men: Usually occurs when their significance comes into question, such as as provider or the role they believe they should play. Other men experience these symptoms when they have overvalued work, certainty, and feeling important. This way they do not allow their emotions to show or allow themselves to experience life. Their marriage and social life usually suffers as a result.
Depression In Woman: Usually occurs when they feel a loss of love such as after a break-up. They usually believe that they’re unlovable to themselves or others. Some woman even try to feel certain that they are loved by controlling everyone. Some women experience postpartum depression which is extreme sadness after the birth of their child.
Depression In Teenagers: Everybody wants to feel a part of and connected to a group. Social anxiety and low self-esteem can come from these years as they believe that they don’t fit in anywhere. They question their identity and if they will be accepted for who they are.
Depression In Older People: Some elderly believe they’ve lost their sense of identity and importance in this world. These people no longer work at a job, and don’t know what their purpose is anymore. They may even question what the purpose of life and living is. They may even experience a loss of connection as they don’t socialize as much anymore.
Is Depression A Chemical Imbalance?
No. Our thoughts influence which neurotransmitters the brain sends to the body to make us feel a certain way.
For example, when we think happy, pleasurable and exciting thoughts, our body releases the “happy” neurotransmitters serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine.
Dysthymia (recurrent mild depression): When the person has periods of lows that reoccur, but are usually not harmful to their overall quality of life. This mild feeling is usually based on a limiting world belief about life in general, or a limiting belief about something specific. For example, people may think that love is possible, but not from their parents. This nagging feeling keeps occurring consciously and/or unconsciously, and doctors label that “mild depression”.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): 1% – 2% of people feel down during the fall and winter months with the cold weather and reduced sunlight. Although our environment does influence our well-being, this again does not mean that someone “has” depression. There are many solutions including socializing, exercising, taking advantage of the season with its many activities, and more.
Major Depression: Less common than mild depression, but still affects a good amount of the population. Similar to mild depression, major depression is merely a belief, pattern of focus, language and/or physiology which is more developed. It’s more developed through repetition plus emotion, or one occurrence of an event with high emotion where a limiting belief was created.
Atypical Depression: When people feel really down and engage in activities such as excessive sleeping, overeating, and talking negatively, and at other times feel better when around friends, working on something they love, and receiving good news.
Post-Partum / Post Natal Depression: A feeling of sadness and emptiness after a woman delivers their baby. Their apparent emptiness can come from the limiting beliefs the woman add surrounding having a baby, such as “when I have a baby, I will feel loved”. When she doesn’t feel loved as hoped and expected, the woman may experience postpartum depression.
A List of Common Antidepressant Medication and Drugs
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)
Escitalopram (Lexapro, Cipralex)
Paroxetine (Paxil, Seroxat)
Sertraline (Zoloft, Lustral)
Doctors and psychiatrists still continue to prescribe these pills even though they have many adverse side-effect as well as a low success rate. People usually take this drugs in desperation when they believe all other hope is lost.
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What is Depression?
Definition: Depression is basically when your life doesn’t match how you think it should be, and you feel powerless to change it.
Dr. Martin Seligman, a leader in cognitive psychology and motivational research, wrote a National Bestselling Book called Learned Optimism. He explains that depression is a mentality that is easy to change.
There are both self-defeating thought patterns as well as self-empowering thought patterns. We now have a choice.
People feel depressed when: they think problems are permanent (forever), pervasive (unable to change it) and personal (it means there’s something wrong with them).
Depressing Thoughts Examples:
First Example: I want to have a loving relationship, but I have trouble finding the right partners and I don’t think I can ever find them.
Second Example: I want a job and the money I like, but I feel stuck in this job forever.
Third Example: My parents should accept me as I am, but they don’t, and I can’t do anything to change it.
Misdiagnosis and Limiting Labels
Doctors and other health care professionals tend to misdiagnose and give false and limiting labels. These labels are used to give both the doctor and a patient a sense of certainty as they at least know what they “have”. People can feel depressed based on their beliefs, patterns of focus, language, and physiology and so forth, but nobody “has” depression. Knowing the truth that we can all feel happy, strong, and with high self-esteem empowers yourself, your friends, your family, and your kids.
Depression Treatment – What You Can Do To Feel Better
People try many different activities to help them feel happy again, such as yoga for depression, meditation, energy healing, and many other modalities. When you see the signs and symptoms of depression, look for the source of this feeling.
This permanent, pervasive, and personal thinking is actually completely false. The amazing thing that you can always change your physical reality (situation) or change the way you look at things. Understand that feeling trapped and overwhelmed are just constructions of the mind.
Change Your Physical Reality
To change our physical reality, we sometimes feel like we do not have options, to change our job, to change our body, to change the kind of people we attract into our lives, and so forth.
The Truth Is: I have found that when people really want to succeed, accomplish and reach their goals, they almost always find ways.
Think about your own life, when you really really wanted to, or felt like you needed to reach your goal, you almost always found ways, right?
If you really wanted the job of your dreams, you searched on the internet everyday, you asked your friends, you asked strangers, you looked for job postings.
In the end, you usually reached your goal, right?
I have found that people who keep trying almost always reach their goal. They do it through empowering beliefs, hard work, the right strategies, patience, faith, and working together with people.
Why should I keep trying if it seems like I keep missing the mark? The finger licking good KFC owner Colonel Sanders got his chicken turned down 1009 times! He eventually succeeded and ran a success chain of KFC restaurants which are still running strong to this day.
Change Your Perspective To Stop Feeling Sad
Based on my experience, the number one reason people feel depressed is because they think they are not acceptable as they are. In other words, they only feel good about themselves if they act a certain way or accomplish certain goals.
This usually happens when well meaning important people in someone’s life only praises them when they succeed or act in a certain way. For example, parents who feel very proud when their children get good grades and who act very mad when their children get bad grades.
The child usually develops a belief that they need to succeed in order to feel accepted, loved and significant.
This is a distorted perspective as it’s not fully true. When I show people different angles and new perspectives, they feel alive, fully energized and don’t feel depressed anymore.
“A chemical imbalance in the brain causes depression” has been promoted by doctors and pharmaceutical companies. Apparently people who feel depressed have lower levels of mood related neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. This theory was created by scientist Joseph J. Schildkraut in his paper “The Catecholamine Hypothesis of Affections Disorders” (1965).
The drug companies took this theory and ran, making billions in the process.
How Do We Explain These Chemical Imbalance In The Brain Studies?
Thinking happy and exciting thoughts also releases the neurotransmitters serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine.
People who think negative thoughts release these neurotransmitters and hormones at a much lower rate. In other words, these people aren’t thinking the thoughts to release enough of these neurotransmitters and hormones to feel great.
What Chemicals Do People Who Feel Depressed Release?
People who have depressing and emotionally charged thoughts activate a part of our brain called the amygdala. The amygdala then releases so called ‘stress hormones’ called cortisol and noradrenaline.
These hormones are involved in the fight-or-flight response. The fight-or-flight response may be helpful for a little while when needed, but overusing it will eventually exhaust one’s body and mind. Our bodies and minds then try to save our emotional and physical health by physically, and emotionally releasing, or in other words giving up.
Common Antidepressant Medication and Drugs
Popular well-known antidepressant drugs include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as Celexa, Zoloft, and Prozac.
These drugs do more harm than good and are very ineffective.
Are Antidepressants Effective?
Antidepressants may be lifesaving in times of crisis, however they should only be taken in severe circumstances and for only a short amount of time.
Although they can make people feel relieved in the moment, they do not address the route of the issue and therefore are always a band-aid solution.
Research shows that over time very few people become symptom free. In addition, most people who respond to medication at the beginning end up feeling depressed all over again. Many people even experience a greater lose of hope and physical, mental, and emotional side-effects.
Studies show that in cases of mild to moderate depression, antidepressants are just as effective as placebos. In fact, intensive research shows that placebos are stronger than the drugs themselves.
How Do Our Bodies and Minds Release This Stress?
A way to emotionally release is to think a thought like “I keep trying and failing. This will never work. I might as well give up”.
If this thought is true or not doesn’t matter to the exhausted person. Someone who keeps trying and supposedly failing and therefore feels exhausted, will do and think anything to feel better.
This ‘depressing’ thought actually helps the person to actually relax after they’ve been in a heightened emotional state for such a long period. They consciously and/or unconciously realize that this thought relaxed them, even if a little bit, so they keep thinking it.