Life Coach – Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs

What Are The Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs?

Here you will learn about the 6 Human Needs which explains how every person in the world operates.

A chart of Tony Robbins 6 human needs

Certainty: feeling secure that we can experience more pleasure than pain, safety, predictability

Uncertainty/Variety: change, excitement, the unknown

Significance: feeling special, unique, that our lives have meaning

Love/Connection:  feeling loved, feeling connected with ourselves and others

Growth: progress, expanding our capacity, capability, and understanding

Contribution: giving what we have to others, to contribute beyond ourselves

The 6 Humans Needs by Tony Robbins are emotional states that every human being meets.  Every person meets the first four.  We meet them even if we have to lie to ourselves, even if we have to have split personalities, we will find a way to meet them.

In addition, people ignore their values, ethics, and sometimes common sense to meet at least the first 4 Human Needs.

Meeting the final two needs of Growth and Contribution make us feel fulfilled.

Some financial rich people feel depressed.  They might have the first 4 needs met, but they’re not growing or contributing beyond themselves anymore.

People can meet their needs through actions, or simply through beliefs.  Everything we do or think or believe is because it meets one or more of The 6 Human Needs.

A good therapist or coach locates what needs his clients actions and/or beliefs meet in order to understand how they operate.  They should show clients how to fulfill their needs easier and in more positive ways.

Addictions, good or bad, happen when we meet at least 3 of The 6 Human Needs at high levels, which is discussed later in this article.

We tend to value 2 needs above the rest.  Some people are love bugs (love/connection) and live for excitement (variety).  Most people have learned to value certainty and significance above the rest, however what most people’s real top needs are love/connection and variety.  Valuing certainty and significance just seems safer to them.

The 6 Human Needs Explained

Certainty: feeling secure that we can experience more pleasure than pain, safety, predictability

The human need of certainty

Negative Ways: Eating, Smoking, Drinking, Being pissed off and angry, having the same routine every day, being pessimistic, focusing on the negative, and giving up (so you don’t need to try and therefore believe that you don’t run the risk of feeling pain)

Positive Ways: Finding Solutions, Learning, Working smartly to have a stable job, Focusing on the positive, Believing that everything happens for a reason, Believing that there’s good in everything, Believing that there’s always a way if you’re committed

 

 

Uncertainty/Variety: change, excitement, the unknown

The human need of uncertainty

Negative Ways: Violence, Gossiping, Thinking about committing suicide

Positive Ways: Watching a scary movie, Reading a new book, Having an interesting conversation, Being creative, Expanding your company, Setting exciting goals, Picking up a new hobby, Believing in UFOs

 

 

Significance: feeling special, unique, that our lives have meaning

The human need of significance

Negative Ways:  Having the most money and toys even if you hurt others to obtain them, Bossing people around, Criticizing others, Destroying, Being known as “The Alcoholic”, or  “Clinically Depressed”

Positive Ways:  Knowing that we’re in control on our lives, Knowing that our positive actions positively influence our world, Believing that we’re all here for a reason, Knowing that all of us are automatically special without having to do anything to prove our worth

 

Love/Connection: feeling loved, feeling connected with ourselves and others

The human need of love/connection

Negative Ways:  Playing the victim, Feeling depressed all the time to get compassion for one’s self and/or others, Overeating, Hating one’s self in order to sulk and connect with one’s self

Positive Ways:  Loving oneself unconditionally, Loving others, Feeling connected to nature, Being part of positive groups

 

 

Growth: progress, expanding our capacity, capability, and understanding

The human need of growth

Negative Ways: Expanding our waistlines, Drinking and smoking more than the previous week, Being more depressed than the previous week

Positive Ways: Growing a relationship, Reaching step-by-step emotional, physical and financial goals, Making more money, Growing a business which helps yourself and others, Growing a garden, Raising a child or a pet

 

Contribution: giving what we have to others, to contribute beyond ourselves

The human need of contribution

Negative Ways: Giving our advice to people who asked not to receive it, Giving our support to political initiatives that strive to destroy and kill

Positive Ways: Offering our help, skills, and expertise to others, Using our millions to contribute to a worthwhile cause. Giving to a charity to deeply believe in, Offering someone a hand

 

How Are Our 6 Human Needs Connected With Addictions?

Addictions happen when we associate the action or belief at high levels to 3 or more of The 6 Human Needs.

For example, we can associate smoking with:

Certainty: Recognizable feelings plus smoking can stimulate deep diaphramic breathing.

Uncertainty: Change of state, especially when someone feels stressed

Significance: Being know as “something”, which is “A Smoker”

Love & Connection: Most people smoke with others and feel part of a group

Tony Robbins TED Talk Discussing The 6 Human Needs

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